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  Yoga mother daughter-

When she was four, my youngest grandchild delighted in my tai chi and yoga demonstrations. I would show her how in Tai Chi we "embrace the moon" and "stroke the wild horse's mane" then we would move on to a yoga flow of mountain to tree to falling star poses–at which point she and I would fall over and laugh. She's nine now, and as her older brother and sister concentrate their physical efforts on soccer, soccer and soccer, she has become my yoga buddy.

Whenever I come for a visit–she lives in Albany; we live in Maryland–we head for the basement to practice yoga. We make our way through cat and down dog, the warrior poses and triangle. We try eagle and cobra. But this is all prelude for her:  she has her eye on shoulder stand–with an assist. I hold her up by her ankles, give her back a support with my shin and slowly ease back a smidgen of the assist. Each visit she's just a little stronger, a little more able to use her abs and arms to "hold it" on her own–even if it's just for a second or two. She loves to hear me tell her how much progress she's making with shoulder stand.

There's a special grace in sharing yoga with her. It's a way to do something special together –something no one else in her family can usurp or do better than she can (as is the way with older siblings). This last visit over Thanksgiving, she seemed to feel the same way about our yoga tie. As her grandpa and I were leaving to catch our airplane, she and I had our usual goodbye hug. I mentioned how much fun she seemed to have had on Thanksgiving day when she ran all over the house playing nerf gun shootout with her uncle. "Yes," she admitted, that had been a highlight. Then she whispered, "also the yoga."

Every morning when I roll out my yoga mat, I smile at her three little words and am warmed by my yoga buddy.

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11 responses to “Grandparenting: Building a special tie with a grandchild”

  1. Darlene Avatar

    Grandma’s are so special. I delight to see my mom interact and engage with her grand kids…they LOVE her cooking and baking. It’s so precious and such a blessing that you can have such a cute yoga buddy!

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  2. Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski Avatar

    I love that you do yoga together. That’s so cool. So far I only have a grand dog but he’s good at yoga too.

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  3. Penpen Avatar

    It’s a blessing and a wonderful opportunity. Same as your mom with her baking and cooking. A bond is a bond is a bond.

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  4. Penpen Avatar

    He probably has down dog and up dog down pat. My grand pup specializes in rolling onto her back for a tummy rub.

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  5. Stephanie ReadsWell Avatar

    I don’t have grandchild yet, but these tips are so helpful. May be, I will use these tips in the near future. I should learn Yoga first.

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  6. Penpen Avatar

    I like to think that it isn’t so much the grandkid or the yoga but being open to doing something special with someone you want to forge a bond with. Sounds like you’re already I that camp.
    Thanks for stopping by to comment

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  7. Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond Avatar

    What a wonderful way to bond with your grandchild. I do this with my grandson as well and we also exercise together. What a wonderful grandmother you are. Thank you for sharing with us at #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty and have a great week!

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  8. candy Avatar

    My grandchildren know we are going to spend time making something yummy in the kitchen. Afterwards we are going to do some kind of fun craft. During the summer the garden is always a fun place to teach.

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  9. Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures Avatar

    What a sweet post! I bet she will always think of you when she is practicing yoga! -Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures

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  10. Beverly Avatar

    How fun that you and your granddaughter can share this activity. It’s always special to find ways to bond with our grandchildren.

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  11. Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid Avatar

    Congrats! Your post is Featured at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty ♥ See here: https://grammysgrid.com/blogging-grandmothers-link-party-24/

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