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We've all heard the numbers: our nests are not emptying out as quickly as they did a generation ago. What with the major blips in the economy, the difficulty in landing career jobs and the burden of student debt, lots of grown kids who've completed their college days are living at home–saving for the future or just riding out a low-income job till something better comes along.
 
That's been true of both sexes. But now a new Pew Research study finds our daughters are heading home at a faster pace–and for longer stays–than our sons. According to Pew, you’d have to go back 74 years–to the 1940s– to observe similar living arrangements among young women. Young men are also living in the same situation, but their share hasn’t climbed to 1940's levels, the highest year on record. Back then, 36.2% of young women lived with their parents or relatives. That percent dropped over the next couple of decades (as low as 20 percent in 1960) as marriage rates increased and women began joining the workforce in larger numbers, becoming financially able to live on their own. In  the 1940s, even if a woman was single and able to support herself, it was culturally unseemly for her to live on her own.
 
A study out of Australia  finds almost one in four young adults– between the ages of 20 and 34–are living with their parents, but the split between percent of men and women sticking to the home front is wider. About 18 per cent of women were still living at home compared to 24 per cent of males.
 
A researcher at Melbourne University, Associate Professor Cassandra Szoeke, sees the worldwide trend of grown children living at home as having a huge impact on the parents of those still-at-home grown children. She looked at research involving 20 million people across the world and found children living at home were causing parents financial stress and personal anxiety and that there was deterioration in the relationship between parent and partner and between parent and child.

She also looked at which children tend to hang around ye olde nest the longest. Those with happily married parents are more likely to live at home than those who have a stepmother or father. Wealthier parents are also more likely to have their kids stick around.

Some charts from Pew that detail changes in women's lives:

Not Leaving the Nest: Women Living With Family Returns to 1940 Level

US college enrollment men women

Average age American women get married

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4 responses to “Refilled Nests: Our grown daughters are living with us–just like it was the 1940s”

  1. Tamuria Avatar

    Those statistics are amazing! I have three sons who couldn’t wait to move out but all came back at different times. My youngest recently moved into the in-laws’ with his wife and two kids and I’m a tiny bit shamed I was really pleased they didn’t ask to come back here. Love them all to bits but we had them for a while when there was just one kid and I found I really needed a break. I found this post really interesting. Found you on Grand Social. Have a great Christmas. 🙂

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  2. penny Avatar

    Glad you found me on Grand Social. Thanks so much for sharing your experience. Have talked to a lot of friends whose kids moved back home with their kids. I can’t think of one who wasn’t relieved when the kids moved on and out–love them to bits tho they do. The truth is, we’ve raised our kids, been thru the excitement that brings to a household and we are ready to give up the reins of managing busy-ness. Then there’s the intrusions on privacy: It’s one thing when the kids are 7 years old; it’s another when they’re 27.

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  3. Beth Havey Avatar

    Fascinating stats. Replay of the old ways. My mother had two sister who never married. They lived with my grandmother until she died.
    My grandmother was a peach, wonderful woman, and so fortunate to have two loving daughters to live with.
    My mother married early, and didn’t finish college. My aunts got their masters degrees in the early 30s. My mother always felt
    that the depression forced many women to move back home and in doing so they didn’t always meet the man of their dreams, so to speak.

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  4. penny Avatar

    it is interesting how the replay of the old ways is playing itself out today–despite the independence of women today. I was fascinated by the trade-offs your mother’s sisters made.

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