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Post Pandemic Issues: Can we close our helping hand to our non-vaxxed kids

07/27/2021

The country is riven by the vaccinated versus anti-vaxxers. Infection rates are escalating among the unvaccinated. That's allowing new, virulent variants to thrive, threatening our health and the return to normal, whatever that may be. What happens when the unvaxxed hits home, when it's not the rogue uncle or distant cousin but your adult child…
Should we reboot the tough-love rules on loans to our kids during the corona crisis?

07/21/2020

As we welcomed in the new year of 2020, our adult kids were on a steady financial path: working, paying their rent, fiscally independent. Or they might have been in mid-struggle but showing promise. Then along came the coronavirus pandemic and its devastating effect on the economy. Our adult kids may now be in financial…
Bank of Mom and Dad: What to do and how to do it when it’s time to close the helping hand

05/23/2018

There comes a time in the life of every family when the Bank of Mom and Dad has to close–or at least limit its lending policies.
Money Matters: The unintended consequences of overextending a financial lifeline

01/28/2018

There are unintended consequences when we financially support our grown kids–especially when it comes to their siblings.
Bank of Mom & Dad: We make irrational decisions about helping out our kids. But there’s a reason for that.

06/09/2017

A branch of economic theory tells us that spending our hard-earned money–or potential retirement savings–on our grown kids has a whopping pay off: It makes us feel good.
Supporting Grown Children: There is such a thing as a “brat allowance.” Benefactors beware.

11/28/2016

A brat allowance–open access to the bank of mom and dad–is not only the worst possible way to help out our grown kids financially, but it can be habit forming.
Subsidizing Grown Kids: The view from the other side of the helping hand

05/26/2016

The view from a grown son on the perils of too much parental support and the bad vibes of entitlement
Parenting Grown Children: Do they still need our help?

10/29/2015

We’re the generous generation when it comes to helping our grown kids. Are we also an historical anomaly?

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Category: tough love

Post Pandemic Issues: Can we close our helping hand to our non-vaxxed kids

Should we reboot the tough-love rules on loans to our kids during the corona crisis?

Bank of Mom and Dad: What to do and how to do it when it’s time to close the helping hand

Money Matters: The unintended consequences of overextending a financial lifeline

Bank of Mom & Dad: We make irrational decisions about helping out our kids. But there’s a reason for that.

Supporting Grown Children: There is such a thing as a “brat allowance.” Benefactors beware.

Subsidizing Grown Kids: The view from the other side of the helping hand

Parenting Grown Children: Do they still need our help?