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Category: buying a house

  • The Brits are not just our friends across the pond: They seem to be very much like us when it comes to giving their adult children a financial boost. A recent survey by the insurance company Liverpool Victoria had these findings: 94  percent of parents surveyed still make financial contributions to their children's education and…

  • A recent blog on Tellinitlikeitis, looks at the issue of what we owe our adult children. Grown children who demand help buying a house or regular babysitting or loans that are really gifts–that can feel like parental failure, and parents may be culpable for being enablers when this happens. Many of us get much joy…

  • When you lend your grown kids money–and it's a loan, not a gift–you may be risking a whole new set of pressures on your relationship. "What seems straightforward can become a straitjacket if families aren't careful," a recent news story reports. It asks the key questions:  How do you keep family harmony when money is…

  • When paterfamilias and I bought our house–the one we're still living in–our children were five and six years old. My mother flew up from her condo in Florida to help with the dirty work of moving in. She and I hand-transferred to the new house a fragile antique wall clock and a gold-framed mirror that…