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Whether it's their weight (too heavy, too thin), a tat, the breakout color of their hair, their clothing choices–whatever–we are unwise to say anything about our adult child's appearance. The following observation from Philip Galanes, he of Social Qs, started life as advice to a reader who wanted to comment on a stranger's tattoos. The core of Galanes' advice is as germane to us vis a vis our adult children as it is to the querying reader.

….[C]omments about appearance are often unwelcome, end even compliments betray an unappealing entitlement to judge.

painting: Van Gogh