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A recent story in a Canadian newspaper touched a lot of buttons for parents of adult children, and particularly of “only children.”  The story is the  adult child’s complaint about the tight controls parents exert, even as the child approaches marriage. The writer, an only child who is marrying an only child, says she noticed the stepping-over-boundaries during the wedding-plans phase but that the over-involvement is moving into the choice of where to live.
Part of the answer to the writer’s plea likened the only child to a little and much-beloved emperor. But the bottom line was this: Whether it’s outwardly apparent or not, part of the parents’ dream is that “you
will become an independent adult with all the tools to make life
choices yourself. Unfortunately, parents are rarely willful enough to
cut the cord themselves–you have to do it.” And it will hurt.
If you see yourself in this, you might want to check your intrusion factor and pedal back.